Saturday, April 24, 2010

Should I be Upset or Just Let It Go

I need you guys’ opinion. I do not like to be upset or carry grudges so I want to squash this mess and continue on with my life. All of my friends and relatives and church family is aware of this very rare cancer that I have and the fact that I have to drive from Georgia to Tampa, Florida every three months. The last time I was in Tampa was two or three weeks ago. I had major surgery that included exploratory surgery of my liver, spleen, pancreas, stomach, etc. in search of the tumor however the surgery was unsuccessful and they could not find the tumor, however they did remove my gallbladder. Before I went to Tampa I begged my sisters and my mother to please come visit me in the hospital at least for one day because I was terrified and needed family there. Keith was by my side every step of the way and I do not know what I would have done without him,but no sisters, and no mother. My mother has illnesses of her own. She is in constant pain with her legs, back, and kneecaps so I totally understood that she could not take the drive to Tampa. I had spoken with my youngest sister and we agreed that it would be better for her to come around and help me at home versus coming to the hospital because I would need more help and company at home once I came back, so all is good on that point. She has not come around yet, but that is my fault, I am working on a schedule for all of this. However, my other sister knew how difficult this was going to be for me and I asked her to come but due to monetary issues she could not come, which I understood.

Fast forward to the week after I arrive back at home from my surgery in Tampa. I found out that my sister who said she had the monetary issues, her husband, my oldest daughter and her husband all drove to Disney World together to have some R&R. I spoke to my sister a few days before they left and she made no mention of the trip. To make matters worse, on several occasions while I was in the hospital I expressed to that sister that I wanted the three of us (sisters) to come closer together as a family because I felt that we were no where near as close as we could be as siblings. That was just my opinion, but I see so many other families who laugh together and take small inexpensive family trips together, etc. and I know that we could do that too. She promised me that we would work on our relationships once I returned from my surgery. Well, that is pretty hard to do when they are living it up in Orlando while I am recovering from surgery in Atlanta. Please don’t get me wrong, I think they all had a right to take a vacation to Orlando with their children, We all need to do more of that relaxation, what bothers me is that they did it the week after I returned which means they could have done it during the two weeks I was in Tampa and visited at least one day. It would have meant so much to me. I don’t know of any boss in the country who would not have let them rescheduled their vacation days two weeks ahead of time to visit their sister in the Cancer Treatment Center, but none of them did that. I am very hurt over this and I want to get passed this but need you all’s opinion/help on this. I text messaged my sister my displeasure with what they did and asked them to say Hi to Mickey Mouse for me.
My question for all of you is this…..Am I right to be upset, or am I wrong? How do I get past this because it hurts me to my core. I feel like I am just a piece of trash to them and that I don’t matter. What are your thoughts?

Reality Shows Enough Is Enough

Is there any end in sight to reality television? Don’t get me wrong, there are many reality television shows I enjoy watching, but the number and extent in which they will go to in order to be success and make money are beginning to get outrageous. One of the worse of these shows is called “Cheaters”. Cheaters is a reality television show in which spouses or significant others who suspect their mates of cheating on them hire private investigators on the Cheaters staff to secretly follow around and tape record conversations of the suspected cheater in hopes of finding proof that the person in question is actually cheating on their significant other. This show reveals it all! Hotel room visits, lying telephone conversations, romantic visits in the park, sex in cars, you name it, this show has seen it and shown it on television. The highlight to all of this is when the television show host actually meets with the person being cheated on and shows them footage of the proof they have on the person cheating. As soon as the footage is completed, the show whisks the person off to where the cheater is at with their companion. I probably do not need to tell you what happens next, but let me just say that’s when it gets juicy. There is fighting, hotel doors burst open with people naked or in towels, quiet intimate booths zoomed in on with bright television cameras. It is really kind of ruthless, but it does make for good television.

Some of the better reality shows such as American Idol, Dancing with the Stars, and the Bachelor are some of the good, decent shows, but there are more and more of similar shows popping up on the tube. We all love a good reality show, but at some point enough is just enough and I for one say that it is enough. Please, no more new reality shows until we can at least get accustomed to all of the current ones under our belts and understood first.

By the way, in case you are all wondering, my current favorite reality show is Dancing With the Stars. It was once American Idol, but since Paula’s departure I do not find it quite as interesting. I also get upset at some of the people they pass through into the top twelve. To me, some of the ones passed over are much more talented than some of the ones who make it to the top twelve. I hate that!

My Kids Bring Me Joy

There are quite a few things that bring me joy. The sound of birds chirping, soft music, a good meal, a soft kiss on the cheek—these are just some of the things that bring a smile to my face, but the number one thing that makes me happy is watching my children play together peacefully in harmony. As all kids, they fuss and fight and have their disagreements and that simply irritates me, but I know that it is common. Watching them play together with smiles on their faces and enjoying each other’s company elates me to a degree in which I cannot describe. It is beyond comprehension to me how such lovely and peaceful children who thoroughly enjoy each other’s company one minute can appear to hate each other’s guts the next minute.

Growing up, I was the oldest of five and thus was always at odds with at least one or two of my siblings. My two sisters were close, my two brothers were close, but no one ever wanted to play with me. I don’t want to sound like a whiner, but that actually bothered me over the years. I eventually accepted it as something I had no control over and spent a lot of my time writing poetry, reading, and listening to the radio. There were numerous times I wished I had a twin brother or sister to share thoughts and feelings with but by the age of ten I realized that I needed to accept things as they were and be happy about it because there was nothing I could do about it.

As an adult I often reflect on the loneliness I felt growing up and vowed that I would do everything in my power to ensure all of my children always felt like they could talk or lean on anyone in the family…even me. I guess that is why it brings me so much joy to hear them playing and laughing together. Although they are five, nine, and eleven, they have a very good sibling relationship and truly enjoy each other’s company (most of the time). I watch them and rejoice as I know that all households and/or siblings do not have such a healthy and joyous relationship.

My Kids Bring Me Joy

There are quite a few things that bring me joy. The sound of birds chirping, soft music, a good meal, a soft kiss on the cheek—these are just some of the things that bring a smile to my face, but the number one thing that makes me happy is watching my children play together peacefully in harmony. As all kids, they fuss and fight and have their disagreements and that simply irritates me, but I know that it is common. Watching them play together with smiles on their faces and enjoying each other’s company elates me to a degree in which I cannot describe. It is beyond comprehension to me how such lovely and peaceful children who thoroughly enjoy each other’s company one minute can appear to hate each other’s guts the next minute.

Growing up, I was the oldest of five and thus was always at odds with at least one or two of my siblings. My two sisters were close, my two brothers were close, but no one ever wanted to play with me. I don’t want to sound like a whiner, but that actually bothered me over the years. I eventually accepted it as something I had no control over and spent a lot of my time writing poetry, reading, and listening to the radio. There were numerous times I wished I had a twin brother or sister to share thoughts and feelings with but by the age of ten I realized that I needed to accept things as they were and be happy about it because there was nothing I could do about it.

As an adult I often reflect on the loneliness I felt growing up and vowed that I would do everything in my power to ensure all of my children always felt like they could talk or lean on anyone in the family…even me. I guess that is why it brings me so much joy to hear them playing and laughing together. Although they are five, nine, and eleven, they have a very good sibling relationship and truly enjoy each other’s company (most of the time). I watch them and rejoice as I know that all households and/or siblings do not have such a healthy and joyous relationship.

Home Based Administration

I am often asked what is the best way to become a virtual assistant or home based secretary. Many people are under the impression that working from home is easy and you get to sleep for the better part of the day and spend more time with your kids. I am here to tell you that those impressions are totally false. On the contrary, you may actually spend more hours working your administrative home business than you did actually going into an office. Mostof my days start before I wake the kids up to get ready for school and does not end until around ten or eleven o'clock at night. It can be tiring and draining, and some days you may wonder if you made the right decision, but in my opinion nothing can be more satisfying than working for myself instead of for someone else. I do not need a supervisor to pat me on the back because I pat myself on the back everytime I get a compliment from a customer. For the most part, I am in control of how much money I make because it is based on how much I work and how well I am able to attract more customers. I am very happy that I took the plunge and decided to work for myself. Although I do get to spend more time with my kids, it is a juggling act and is definitely hard work. That being said, this may not be the best fit for you if you are not self-motivated and have a hard time with dedication, but I believe that even if you do not possess those characteristics now, you will be more than willing to make the necessary changes once you feel the pride of owning your own business.

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